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It can be very disheartening to plan a wedding and a life together when your parents don’t like your fiancé. You might wonder how you can interact without all the negativity or confrontation. But there are ways to cope when your parents don’t like your fiancé.

Below are 12 ways to figure out the best ways to keep the peace.

1. Ask Your Parents What Their Concerns Are

If you don’t already know why your parents dislike your fiancé, you should ask them. Once you know exactly what their concerns are, you can take steps to address them and hopefully improve the relationship.

2. Talk To Your Parents Alone

It may be easier for you to begin the process of overcoming your parents’ dislike for your fiancé without your future spouse’s presence. You’re likely to have a greater comfort level this way, and your parents may be more willing to speak freely.

Listen carefully and calmly to what your parents have to say. Find out if the problem is finances, prospects, attitude, background, beliefs, or some other factors.

3. Talk About The Situation As A Group

After you’ve spoken to your parents alone, or, right from the start if you prefer, sit down with them and your fiancé and talk about the situation.

Having open and honest communication about what is going on and how your parents feel may bring a peaceful and happy resolution to the situation.

4. Reassure Your Parents

Sometimes parents have concerns about their future in-laws because of worries they have for their child’s happiness. Talk to your parents about your decision and let them know that they have nothing to worry about. This can help alleviate some of their worries and help them like your fiancé a bit better.

5. Remain Neutral

Avoid taking sides in any confrontations between your parents and your fiancé. This not only will make one side feel betrayed, but may make the situation even worse.

The best thing you can do to diffuse the situation is to remain neutral and let both sides know that you care about them and respect their feelings.

6. Be honest with everyone

You may be tempted to give your fiancé the impression that your parents really like them. You might not want to let your parents even know that you’re engaged.

The best thing to do when your parents dislike your fiancé is to be honest with everyone about what’s going on.

7. Try To Compromise

Your parents and your fiancé may never see completely eye-to-eye. However, they can reach a compromise that all of you can cope with.

Sit down with your parents and your fiancé and try to work out a plan for how you all can interact and be a family together without any negativity.

8. State Your Position Clearly

If you’ve tried communicating and compromising and there’s simply no way that your parents will ever be able to embrace your fiancé, you need to stand firm.

Be clear that their disapproval will not change how you feel about your partner or your plans for a life together.

9. Create A Plan For Managing Family Interactions

Once you’re married, you’ll have to continue to navigate the difficult relationship between your spouse and your parents.

As before, honesty, open communication, and practical adjustments are key. Clear the air when necessary, seek out compromises, and be reasonable about limiting interactions when needed.

10. Talk To Each Other

Don’t try to ignore or deny the problems caused by your parents’ dislike for your fiancé. If anything, use it as added motivation to strengthen the relationship you have with your partner.

Communicate openly and often about your feelings and concerns, listen attentively, and seek support and solutions from each other.

11. Empathize With Your Fiancé

Your parents’ negative attitude will weigh on you, but it will also impact your partner. They will likely feel some amount of guilt for causing this rupture between you and your parents.

Be clear with your fiancé that you don’t blame them and that you support and love them just the way they are.

12. Consider Couples’ Counseling

Family disapproval can destroy romantic relationships by sowing seeds of doubt or distrust. If you truly want your forthcoming marriage to succeed, don’t be afraid to seek out professional help in working through the problems caused by your parents’ dislike for your fiancé.

Being determined to make a relationship work is a sign of strength, not weakness. The therapist will use their judgment on whether to include your parents in a session or two. Sometimes an outsider can connect with parents better in this kind of situation.

Author: Herbidex Teasler

Aderibigbe Abiodun , is a Blogger, Internet Marketer, Programmer, Web Developer, and the C.E.O of

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